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Beau's Journey » Blog Archive » May 26, 2008: The wisdom of being unwise…
Tuesday, May 27th, 2008

May 26, 2008: The wisdom of being unwise…

  When we are a child there are so many things that we don’t realize.  We have not received our "wisdom" that comes with growing older.  I have learned over the years that there are some things we are just not supposed to learn until "later".  Moments will come, in our life, when we learn something about ourselves or someone else.  In that moment we have a realization that "oh THAT is why that happened" or "OHHHH now I understand why my mother used to do that" – or "that is why my teachers taught me that". 

  We usually receive these "moments of realization" in the most uneventful times.  They usually occur while talking with a family member, learning about something from your past or your families past, with the appreciation of receiving something once lost.  Perhaps a truth, a story lost, or a new understanding.

  I have had a lot of those moments over the last few years.  Perhaps I am becoming a "little" more wise as I grow a little bit older.  Now I understand why people say to others that  "he or she is wise beyond their years".  I don’t think I was ever wise beyond my years….sometimes I wish I was!  I look back on moments in my life and say "well, I wish I would have figured that out a long time ago".

  There is wisdom in being unwise, however.  If we know too much too soon then there is not a learning process involved.  We learn from experience.  Experience brings wisdom.  Knowing everything up front would simply make us a computer – programmed to know how to respond to certain situations.  We would have never felt or experienced the emotions of a situation or circumstance.  Thus we would never fully experience the human element.   That which makes us real. 

  Wisdom comes from experience and experience comes from being inexperienced until the day you learn something new.  Then you gain both wisdom and experience.  🙂  You can not have one without the other.  It is a process for our human minds – it is a process for those around us.  A learning process of sorts.

  One thing I have learned over the past few years is that there are truely very few things that are "important" in life.  We could probably all count them together…


  I can’t think of anything else right now?  Can you?   Okay, perhaps being happy.  I would say that is important.  Happiness is so umm what is the word?  Elusive in a slippery kind of way.  Happiness tends to be something abstract.  Something that is not tangible.  A "feeling" perhaps?  Is it a state of being?  I don’t know.  I have recently found happiness on the farm.  Is that the right word?  For everyone following this blog you will know that I have extremely excited about moving to the farm.  There is a peace that comes over me when I stand on that hill and look over the horizons in all directions.  I can’t explain it – some things in life can’t be explained.  Nor should be explained.  They just are.

  I have come to realize more and more that it doesn’t matter what other people think about you.  What matters is what you think, what your family thinks, and what your friends think.  I say it is important – it is important only in the sense that you care about your friends and they care about you.  Everyone will always have an opinion – one way or another.  We don’t all have to agree on everything. 

  Am I rambling in this post?  I just wanted to say that I have learned more and more that family and friends should be the center of everything in your life.  Nothing else matters.  Okay, things "matter".  It MATTERS that you pay your light bill, make a good grade on the mid-term, feed the dog (family in herself), wash your hair and brush your teeth.  Yes, these things do matter.  BUT what REALLY matters is that someone tells you "I love you before you go to bed" – "calls you to tell you that your favorite show is on teleivision (just in case you are online and missing it), sings you happy birthday once a year, text messages you the words "hugs" from time to time when they enter your mind, emails you a photo that you think might inspire them, and I could go on, but you get the point.

  At the end of the day very few things really matter in life.  Family and friends – each other.  That is what matters.

  So this whole rant was simply to say "life is short – enjoy what you have – follow your dreams and pursue that which makes you happy".  Everything else comes second.


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